hypnotik61
I am a stay at home Mom to a 2 year old little man. He just turned two a few weeks ago, and just like clockwork, he entered into the "terrible twos" a week before his birthday.
He is really pushing me and my husband to our limits. He doesn't want to do anything anymore, and will scream and kick at you if you try to dress him, give him a bath, etc. I can't walk into the other room for 5 seconds without him panicking and calling my name. If I don't come running right away, he gets angry and starts throwing things.
The one thing that has got us frustrated beyond belief, is he will not eat. I am so lucky to get one meal in him everyday. We took him to the doctor, and the doctor said he wasn't worried about his eating, that his weight was normal, and this is pretty common.
I am trying my best to ignore his horrendous behavior, but sometimes it's just too much. This isn't just little tantrums here and there, he is acting like this all day, everyday, if I'm not constantly playing games with him. I don't know what to do. As much as I would love to, I can't spend my whole day as his playmate. He never went through separation anxiety like this before now.
Please, we need some advice!! Thanks!
Answer
These are punishments and disciplining methods to use:
Next time he does it say no and tell him why it is wrong
If he does it again put him in time out
If that doesn't work then put him in time out for a little longer and take his favorite toy away for a couple days
If that doesn't work put him in time out then spank him. It won't harm a child. In the old testament it says spare the rod and spoil the child. The best way to do it is to turn him over, spank his bare bottom twice with an open hand but only give him two because of how young he is. Don't do it too hard just enough to hurt and for him to get the message. Before the spanking put him in time out and cool down take deep breaths have a quick drink and then calmly one of you talk to him. Very calmly in your regular voice.
Some children are different. Spanking sometimes doesn't work. Just stick to talking to him firmly, taking toys and privileges away and time outs. Do not spank often if it works. Very occasionally. When he throws tantrums put him in time out. If he gets up and runs away put him back until he stays. He has to learn to stay there on his own.
I am very sorry if my advice doesn't work. All the best to you!
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crymearive
He's finally quit the head banging, but has picked up a new activity whenever I am out of the room even if it's just for a few moments he gets into things he knows better than to bother for the sake of doing it, granted the things he's doing seem quite ingenious for his age and cute I am reaching my breaking point. I don't understand he has a room full of toys but insist on turning the tv on and off and removing his sesame street dvd from the dvd player and putting it in the xbox. There is no distracting with something else like I said he has a room full of toys that he can play with anytime he wants he just loves the things that we don't want him to touch. I've tried putting him in his crib, time outs, and smacking his hand all to no avail. He's nineteen months old and seems so proud to have learned the things he has learned and smiles when I walk up but he seems so mischievious. Help?
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Children at that age are getting into everything. Certain things grab there interest. Especially things they can explore. Toys are good for passing time but once he figures out everything it does he'll want something new. Your child's mind is soaking up information at an incredible rate. Whenever he does something that gives him something back, like pushing buttons on the DVD player, he remembers that and wants it again. He is trying to understand the world through actions. Cause and effect, this for that, and it's all about him. He wants to experience things and he can only see things that are here and now. The other room might as well not exist. He also has a short attention span. Like maybe a minute or two at most. Young children don't have the ability to focus on thing like adults do. A shiny surface, open door, or even a sound that you would ignore might be a lure for him to explore something new. You will constantly have to engage him in activities to keep him out of trouble. For things you don't want him to touch, try putting them up high out of his reach. If he comes to you for something to do, take him there instead of just telling him. Words don't have as much meaning for him as direct experience. That is what he wants most.
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