Drummer Du
I have a 4 year old cousin who lives in the house next to me.She shops at Hollister,Pacsun,Aeropostale,Abercrombie,Abercrombie & Fitch,And Limited Too.She goes around the house singing ''I got my drink and my 2 step'.Which is really not for her age.She is SO divalike.I'll ask her if she wants to watch Dora,And she says 'No,Forget dora,Put on some I love new york!"'.How can i stop her from being this way?
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You can't. Unfortunately her parents are the ones who are creating this monster. They will regret it first, when she's screaming because of some material item they cannot provide for her... but ultimately this poor child will pay the price for what they are doing to her. There just ought to be a test people must take before breeding!
Have you talked about your concerns with her parents?
This child will have nothing in common with other children her age and will stick out like a pregnant nun. Some parents will not be willing to allow her to play with their children, either... thinking she's been exposed to age inappropriate media content and they will want to try to protect their children from being around her because of it. Also- being taught that material things are to be highly valued isn't allowing her to develop personal/social skills, or values. (of course her mother may argue she knows the value of paying more for brand names? LOL) I see this all of the time where someone thinks teaching their toddler to act like an adult (and usually an adult none of us would want to ever have to spend time with) is funny. I have a friend who was raising a "little rocker" dude. Long hair, dressed like he belonged in a motor cycle gang, they let him use bad language and slap grown women on the behind! It was obnoxious, really. He was kicked out of EVERY preschool they tried. Because of the way he dressed and his very long hair when he finally got into Kindergarten he was teased mercilessly. By the time the parents got a clue and started teaching him some social skills and dressing him in ways to fit in a little better he was already a target for the rest of the kids. He's a very angry socially inept little boy today. It's such a shame, too. It's entirely his parent's fault. For not taking parenting seriously and being more concerned with how CUTE it was for their child to act outrageously. How COOL they felt as parents to teach him those things and be a "rebel". It sounds like your niece is in the same boat. Would YOU prize a grown up who was concerned about the name on the front of a store? Yeah, neither would 9/10 of the rest of the adult population. That poor, poor child! I do hope they get a clue and start thinking about what kind of human being they are raising her to be. Kids may be cute when they behave this way (perhaps...?) but as they get older it's NOT cute anymore. Unfortunately they aren't toy- they're humans. Being told for 4 years that this is adorable is shaping who she will be as an adult. It's not cute, they could well be ruining her chances for a happy life. People need to focus on making decisions as parents that build their children up, teach them the skills they need to have a happy, successful life, and to live within our social construct.
You can't. Unfortunately her parents are the ones who are creating this monster. They will regret it first, when she's screaming because of some material item they cannot provide for her... but ultimately this poor child will pay the price for what they are doing to her. There just ought to be a test people must take before breeding!
Have you talked about your concerns with her parents?
This child will have nothing in common with other children her age and will stick out like a pregnant nun. Some parents will not be willing to allow her to play with their children, either... thinking she's been exposed to age inappropriate media content and they will want to try to protect their children from being around her because of it. Also- being taught that material things are to be highly valued isn't allowing her to develop personal/social skills, or values. (of course her mother may argue she knows the value of paying more for brand names? LOL) I see this all of the time where someone thinks teaching their toddler to act like an adult (and usually an adult none of us would want to ever have to spend time with) is funny. I have a friend who was raising a "little rocker" dude. Long hair, dressed like he belonged in a motor cycle gang, they let him use bad language and slap grown women on the behind! It was obnoxious, really. He was kicked out of EVERY preschool they tried. Because of the way he dressed and his very long hair when he finally got into Kindergarten he was teased mercilessly. By the time the parents got a clue and started teaching him some social skills and dressing him in ways to fit in a little better he was already a target for the rest of the kids. He's a very angry socially inept little boy today. It's such a shame, too. It's entirely his parent's fault. For not taking parenting seriously and being more concerned with how CUTE it was for their child to act outrageously. How COOL they felt as parents to teach him those things and be a "rebel". It sounds like your niece is in the same boat. Would YOU prize a grown up who was concerned about the name on the front of a store? Yeah, neither would 9/10 of the rest of the adult population. That poor, poor child! I do hope they get a clue and start thinking about what kind of human being they are raising her to be. Kids may be cute when they behave this way (perhaps...?) but as they get older it's NOT cute anymore. Unfortunately they aren't toy- they're humans. Being told for 4 years that this is adorable is shaping who she will be as an adult. It's not cute, they could well be ruining her chances for a happy life. People need to focus on making decisions as parents that build their children up, teach them the skills they need to have a happy, successful life, and to live within our social construct.
Activities for a 20 month old?
JustMyOpin
I have a 20 month old daughter. I'm trying to integrate early learning activities for her. She loves playing w/ her toys, watching Dora, Little Einsteins, etc. However, I just feel like she needs more stimulating activities during the day. We'll read books. I feel like I need more things for her to do, because, like most toddlers, her attention doesn't stay focused on one thing for too long. I just don't want her sitting around watching TV all day. We do painting sometimes, we'll go outside, and I'll give her some pots and pans while I'm cooking so she can "cook" w/ me on the floor w/ a spoon or something. I just basically try to involve her in what I'm doing. I'm planning to homeschool her when she reaches the appropriate age, but, in today's society, I feel like the more intellectual/developmental advantages I can give her, the better. Any moms (or dads) out there have any recommendations?
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Make play dough. Mix 3 cups flour, 1 cup salt, 3 tablespoons oil, and 1 cup water together. Add food coloring for color. My baby cousin is 3 and she loves this because she thinks she is cooking. She also likes "goop". Mix cornstarch and water together until thick or thin (or both). Let her play with it in bowls with cups and spoons and baking pans and such. Also, she likes to finger paint with shaving cream mixed with food coloring. she loves the mess! I would do this outside on a nice day so nothing inside gets stained!! I haven't done this yet but my friend's daughter's preschool class makes "scenes" for the kids to act out with other kids (or with you). Create like an ice cream store using a table, cleaned ice cream containers, ice cream scoops, and cones made from paper. Or play at the "beach". Dress in bathing suits, and gather towels, sunglasses, a radio, and beach toys. You can also make a supermarket using empty food boxes and containers, play money, and shopping bags. Or school. Or whatever you want.
You could mark on your calender "special days" for the two of you featuring "special" activities like Goofey hat day, Funny Dress Day, Tea party day, Singing contest day, Funny Hair do day, Special mother/daughter walk day ( Walk around the block a few times teaching her about her neighborhood, Etc... I hope this helps.
Make play dough. Mix 3 cups flour, 1 cup salt, 3 tablespoons oil, and 1 cup water together. Add food coloring for color. My baby cousin is 3 and she loves this because she thinks she is cooking. She also likes "goop". Mix cornstarch and water together until thick or thin (or both). Let her play with it in bowls with cups and spoons and baking pans and such. Also, she likes to finger paint with shaving cream mixed with food coloring. she loves the mess! I would do this outside on a nice day so nothing inside gets stained!! I haven't done this yet but my friend's daughter's preschool class makes "scenes" for the kids to act out with other kids (or with you). Create like an ice cream store using a table, cleaned ice cream containers, ice cream scoops, and cones made from paper. Or play at the "beach". Dress in bathing suits, and gather towels, sunglasses, a radio, and beach toys. You can also make a supermarket using empty food boxes and containers, play money, and shopping bags. Or school. Or whatever you want.
You could mark on your calender "special days" for the two of you featuring "special" activities like Goofey hat day, Funny Dress Day, Tea party day, Singing contest day, Funny Hair do day, Special mother/daughter walk day ( Walk around the block a few times teaching her about her neighborhood, Etc... I hope this helps.
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