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i have a talk with them almost everyday if not more than once a day. they understand, but they are right back to fighting, arguing, etc. i am the first born we have different dads. i am 19.
and i know i am some what responsible for my brothers actions he is really sensitive and when we were younger i picked on him...hard...i make up for it everyday now since i found my way...i owe it to him
yeah and they just moved to here like 7 mths ago and there isnt much to do they are always inside because the only thing they look forward to is going to the walmart...lol
Answer
Tell them they can't be with each other anymore. Make them be in different rooms, without showing favoritism (you can't have one kid in the room with the tv and the other not), eat separately, etc. until they miss one another.
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Ask them to think about what they can do for fun together when the entire family has to stay home because of swine flu. Maybe if they think of all the fun they COULD have together, they will be more positive about one another.
Since you are older, you have the advantage of sitting back and watching them. Maybe you can figure out what they get out of the fights. Is it attention from one another, attention from others, feeling like a victim or like a powerful controller? Once you figure out what's so attractive about the arguing, you can take away that part of it so there's no payoff for arguing.
You can also see what triggers the fights.
Are they competitive with one another? Is one kid trying to get the other's attention? Is one kid using the other kid's stuff without permission and nobody is backing up the family rules about that?
Somebody should explain to these kids that fighting all the time is not good for the health. It's not normal and it's too stressful. If they are unhappy about something, they should be able to calmly resolve the situation or ask an adult to help them. They need to know that most of their friends and other outsiders would be horrified at their behavior. Maybe if they want to act like 2 year olds they should be playing with baby toys again? You can give them back when they act their age.
Is your mom and their dad also working to stop these fights? The whole family should be working together on this. But at least, you can make sure that they don't fight around YOU.
Good luck. This is no fun. I hope one of these ideas works for you.
Since you are 19, I hope that you are going to school and getting yourself some advanced education, which you will need to make it on your own in this tough economy. If you are babysitting the kids during the day time, maybe you can take classes when they are at school and at night or on weekends. It's a great investment in yourself and you're worth it. You go girl!
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I just read your extra information. I'm sure that they are stressed out about the move and like you said, a bit bored. The best thing you could teach them is to make their own fun and to think about someone other than themselves. Go with them and get involved in helping others. Maybe there is a neighbor who is too old to take care of his or her yard or to walk their dog. Maybe there are some small kids they can help entertain. Go out and walk, swim, bike, if your neighborhood is good for that. Take advantage of free programs at the library, museums, etc. Go take photos. If you have to stay indoors, do some craft projects, cook, build things, learn things, try yoga, make your own book or photo album. Since you have access to the internet, you can find directions for everything from doing Japanese origami to recipes for making cookies. Keep them busy and have fun together! Cheer them on and compliment them when they do good work. Tell them that you love them and show them their skills and talents. Some kids can't see how special they are until someone tells them that they are a great cook, they measure ingredients well, they really know how to use color, they sure have a great memory, etc.
Tell them they can't be with each other anymore. Make them be in different rooms, without showing favoritism (you can't have one kid in the room with the tv and the other not), eat separately, etc. until they miss one another.
or
Ask them to think about what they can do for fun together when the entire family has to stay home because of swine flu. Maybe if they think of all the fun they COULD have together, they will be more positive about one another.
Since you are older, you have the advantage of sitting back and watching them. Maybe you can figure out what they get out of the fights. Is it attention from one another, attention from others, feeling like a victim or like a powerful controller? Once you figure out what's so attractive about the arguing, you can take away that part of it so there's no payoff for arguing.
You can also see what triggers the fights.
Are they competitive with one another? Is one kid trying to get the other's attention? Is one kid using the other kid's stuff without permission and nobody is backing up the family rules about that?
Somebody should explain to these kids that fighting all the time is not good for the health. It's not normal and it's too stressful. If they are unhappy about something, they should be able to calmly resolve the situation or ask an adult to help them. They need to know that most of their friends and other outsiders would be horrified at their behavior. Maybe if they want to act like 2 year olds they should be playing with baby toys again? You can give them back when they act their age.
Is your mom and their dad also working to stop these fights? The whole family should be working together on this. But at least, you can make sure that they don't fight around YOU.
Good luck. This is no fun. I hope one of these ideas works for you.
Since you are 19, I hope that you are going to school and getting yourself some advanced education, which you will need to make it on your own in this tough economy. If you are babysitting the kids during the day time, maybe you can take classes when they are at school and at night or on weekends. It's a great investment in yourself and you're worth it. You go girl!
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I just read your extra information. I'm sure that they are stressed out about the move and like you said, a bit bored. The best thing you could teach them is to make their own fun and to think about someone other than themselves. Go with them and get involved in helping others. Maybe there is a neighbor who is too old to take care of his or her yard or to walk their dog. Maybe there are some small kids they can help entertain. Go out and walk, swim, bike, if your neighborhood is good for that. Take advantage of free programs at the library, museums, etc. Go take photos. If you have to stay indoors, do some craft projects, cook, build things, learn things, try yoga, make your own book or photo album. Since you have access to the internet, you can find directions for everything from doing Japanese origami to recipes for making cookies. Keep them busy and have fun together! Cheer them on and compliment them when they do good work. Tell them that you love them and show them their skills and talents. Some kids can't see how special they are until someone tells them that they are a great cook, they measure ingredients well, they really know how to use color, they sure have a great memory, etc.
kids survey?
michael s
1.how old are you
2. where u born
3.what year were born
4. three days grace or acdc
5.south park or family guy
6. mayo or mustrad
7. which movie do you like
8.what is your favorite tv show
9. do you play with toys still just kidding
10.what is your favorite thing too do
11.do you have a computer if so what kind
12.do you a ipod or a mp3ormp4 player
13.who is your favorite singer
14.Hannah Montana or zack and cody the sweet life
15.do you play video games which kinds
i am 15 and im board so i made this survey is there a problem with it i dont think there is i am just kidding about your name i dont really want know anything about you it just for fun
Answer
im not a "kid: but ill answer
1.21
2.hospital
3.1986
4.both! three days grace
5.family guy
6.mustard
7.lots!! a league of our own...
8.whose line is it anyways
9.i play board games
10.read,cook
11.i have no clue what the brand is..but yes i have one
12.no im not that high tech haha
13.Hilary Duff
14. im too old for that! ill say the suite life of zack and cody cuz ive seen it before
15. no i dont know how to play any video games..im a girly girl.
im not a "kid: but ill answer
1.21
2.hospital
3.1986
4.both! three days grace
5.family guy
6.mustard
7.lots!! a league of our own...
8.whose line is it anyways
9.i play board games
10.read,cook
11.i have no clue what the brand is..but yes i have one
12.no im not that high tech haha
13.Hilary Duff
14. im too old for that! ill say the suite life of zack and cody cuz ive seen it before
15. no i dont know how to play any video games..im a girly girl.
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